Showing posts with label Charity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Charity. Show all posts

Friday, November 1, 2013

Goodbye, October!

In October...
 
Handsome Husband and I were lucky enough to be invited to the new beautiful home of The Esquire and Baker Girl.  We enjoyed seeing their brand new place, and an amazing dinner prepared by BG!
 
I had the dreaded 1-hour glucose test, failed, freaked the eff out, took the 3-hour test, and passed!  Very typical Stress Casey behavior to have a meltdown before the problem entirely presents itself.
 
I had a lovely time catching up with an old high school teacher of mine over coffee (well, decaf tea for me).  It was so nice to hear about a program I was heavily involved with in high school (Model United Nations, for those wondering), how it's changed, and to get Mr. T updated on many of his former students and the awesome things they are doing nowadays.
 
HH and I got to head to San Diego for a soccer game on the field I spent so many days and nights watching him play on!  This season will be the last that there are players on the team HH played with, so it is a little sad for him, the end of an era, if you will.
 
We had one busy Saturday in mid-October!  We started the day off with a kickball game (okay, I watched a kickball game) with some of HH's newer friends from law school, were hosted to a lovely BBQ at Best Cousin's new place, and ended the evening with a viewing of Captain Phillips after being invited by Aunt Fancy Chef to join her and some family at the luxury movie theater!
 
 
We got to support some fundraising Kindergarten Teacher was doing for her chosen charity by attending an evening at a local wine bar.  Though my glass was longing for wine instead of water, the conversation with some of my favorite ladies made up that.
 
Handsome Husband and I set sail on a Tiki Cruise around Newport Harbor with some law school students. 
 
Gardening Mom and I got a start on our Christmas Shopping at Citadel Outlets' annual Shopping Extravaganza!  This year, MIL Red and Grandma Beach Bum decided to join also, so it was fun to meet up for lunch and a break from the shops.
 
Aunt Fancy Chef invited us to a lovely charity event for South County Outreach called Empty Bowls, where we got to try lots of yummy soups from local restaurants, bid on some silent auction items (though we didn't win, boo!) and listen to some lovely speakers.

HH and I at Empty Bowls
 
Handsome Husband attended a Boot Camp for New Dads!  Though he said he didn't find it all that informative, I still think it's cute!
 
I was showered with love and some pretty awesome gifts for our little New Years Baby at my family baby shower!
 

 
We celebrated Cousin Halloween's 7th (he's getting way too old these days!) with pizza and cupcakes during a mid-week birthday party!
 
Halloween ended the month, and we were content with eating fajitas and handing out candy to our whopping two trick-or-treaters!  We also spent some time thinking about how fun it will be when our baby girl is here for next Halloween!
 
In November ... We've got a lot going on!  There's a few birthdays coming up, some holiday events, our maternity photos, a second baby shower for this little lady, and lots and lots of prepping for her impending arrival! 



Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Project Hope in Haiti, Part V

To read more about this little series of posts, and about Gardening Mom and Sister Swimmer's journey to Haiti, go HERE, see part II HERE part III HERE, and part IV HERE.  If you would like more information on the program through which Gardening Mom and SS went through to volunteer in Haiti, please comment and I will get that information to you!

A week after Gardening Mom and Sister Swimmer returned from Haiti, GM sent out one last email to those who had been hooked to her Haiti updates with her reflections from the trip.

I have been back from Haiti for a week now and am sending one last email to reflect on the trip. 

Before I left on the trip, several people told me that it would be life-changing. I will admit that I doubted that, as I am very good (sometimes too good) at compartmentalizing different aspects of my life and had some doubt as to whether something that I experienced in one aspect of my life would have any lasting impact on any other aspect. 

My initial “take-aways” from the trip:
  • I am not as afraid of flying and traveling as I thought I was, although I was periodically gripped with fear while we were gone that something would happen to prevent our return. I was reminded during the trip what I enjoyed about traveling, so now I am more inspired to do another trip beyond where my car can take me, so in a sense that is somewhat life-changing. 

  • The trip did not inspire me to devote my life to humanitarian causes. In fact, I still am trying to wrap my mind around the concept of doing that, and what motivates and inspires the people who do that. I asked several of the people we met there how they got there, what they were doing before, and still could not truly understand why they were there and why they came back to Haiti after leaving there once. Z is married and spends most of the year away from his wife and says his heart is in Haiti and he will always come back. I can understand one’s heart being someplace where you are not – my heart is really still in Portland, Oregon – but maybe I do not have the internal courage to take the steps to act on my dreams, or maybe I feel too much sense of responsibility to others so that I do not feel that I can make the decision to change my life because it would change other lives around me if I did. But even beyond that, although I might make a decision in a few years to make some major change in my life, it would not be a change that was as altruistic as some of those I met in Haiti.

  • I could not live someplace as warm and humid as Haiti without air-conditioning. I could only stand it there because I knew it was temporary.

  • I have serious doubts as to whether the problems in Haiti and places like Haiti can ever be resolved or whether they are insurmountable. The lack of resources, education, infrastructure, organization and the corrupt political atmosphere all combine to make a problem that has no boundaries. In Tracy Kidder’s book about Dr. Paul Farmer, Mountains Beyond Mountains (the word Haiti means land of high mountains), Dr. Farmer speaks of working on the long defeat – knowing it is a defeat, and still persevering with the effort.   (See above re: I do not understand what motivates people to do this). It kinds of reminds me of the story behind the mini-series “Thornbirds”. The thornbird is a mythical bird that searches for thorn trees from the day it is hatched. When it finds the perfect thorn, it impales itself, and sings the most beautiful song ever heard as it dies. The bird knows it will die, and still it does it. 

  • If I do another trip to Haiti or someplace like Haiti, I want to do something there that can better tap into the resources that I have to offer. It does not have to be legal – in fact, I would prefer that it not be legal, but I think I could help more in some organizational or administrative capacity than in helping to paint houses.  
It was helpful to step away from the demands of the daily work grind. A couple of days after I got back, my assistant said that someone had called and said it was urgent, and I responded, “Really? There is absolutely nothing in our entire company that we are working on that is truly urgent.”  On any vacation, when you step away, the sense of urgency dissipates, but when you see the need in someplace like Haiti, urgency takes on a different meaning altogether. 

I also questioned the relevance of what I do daily and the intensity and  time that I spend on my job. I spend 10 to 12 hours each day providing legal support to a company to facilitate it building and managing shopping centers where people can buy brand name merchandise at a discount. I saw in Haiti some of that brand name merchandise, left behind by the initial purchasers after it had served its brief purpose and found its way on the backs of young Haitian men. It seems that all that time and effort on my part could be focused to something more meaningful. I get that our centers provide jobs to many people and in that way is helpful to the economy. But the larger sense of lack of relevance was fairly acute when I returned. 

What I am very cognizant about now is that although this trip was not, in and of itself, life-changing, it has the potential to become life-changing, but only if I do something with this sense of wanting to create more meaning and relevance and act on it while this sense is fresh. I know all too well that in a week, a month, two months .. that the next loan closing, the next acquisition, the next whatever will seem urgent again, and the sense of wanting to do something more meaningful inspired by on my experiences in Haiti will fade and that the way to make this trip truly meaningful is to make a decision that will impact my life, whether it is immediate or prospective, and to work toward the ultimate implementation of that decision. Some have suggested that I organize something with our tenant base to work on getting clothes to Haiti, or that I work on filling a container of supplies to Haiti – but that is not where I am coming from – it is not Haiti that I want to help, as such, it is a sea change within myself that I want to effect, and it may not end up being Haiti connected at all. 

I realize that I am pondering my “third act” – that until my kids are out of high school, situated with college costs covered and self-supporting, I am “on the hook” and need to continue to work in a position that will provide the money to fuel their needs and that it would be unfair, having raised my girls in this OC lifestyle thus far, to bail on it at this point. But it is not that many years until that point will be reached and time goes by faster every year, and I need to be planning my third act now so that I have a plan to work on for my ultimate transition out of the bread-earning role.  Do I really want to putter in my garden when I leave the daily work grind, or is there something else that I will do? So that is where I am left after returning from Haiti – struggling with the meaning of life and how to make my life more meaningful. Do we all find ourselves there eventually?

I love love loved reading these thoughts from my Gardening Mom.  It really made me feel like I was there - her writing is so warm and inviting.  (Know you know where I get my supreme writing skills, right?)

The real question,

Did they inspire you (you being me) do jet off to Haiti and do the same?
Yes and No.

GM and Sister Swimmer did inspire me to do some chairty work.  Do I want to go to Haiti and paint houses?  No, that's not really for me.  Like Gardening Momma alluded to in her message above, I'd like to use my personal assets in a way that can be charitable. 

I would really like to go on a nursing mission.  Somewhere, anywhere, putting my nursing knowledge and credentials to good use.  Whether that be pumping out flu shots in Africa, or bandaging wounds in the desert, or simply nursing education in Europe - I would like to make that a priority in my life, inspired of course by the charity work of Gardening Mom and SS.

Have you ever gone on a humanitarian trip?
Give me all the details!

Friday, December 30, 2011

2011: A Big Year in Review

So 2011 was big for us,
we got married,
I started working as a nurse,
we did some big things this year.

Lets take a look back...

January 2011

On New Years' Day, we took our final set of engagement pictures.

I had a gorgeous bridal shower.

We spent the weekend in Las Vegas celebrating my Handsome Husband's grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary.

We jetted off to Palm Springs for a fabulous bachelorette weekend!

February 2011

We had a super fun rehearsal dinner with our best friends and our families.

We got hitched!

We went on a gorgeous honeymoon to St. Lucia.


Gardening Dad celebrated another birthday,

and a few weeks later,

Handsome Husband and I both celebrated our birthdays.

I started this here blog - read my first ever post HERE.


We attended the housewarming for Best Friends Fashionista and Swagger as they settled into their LA apartment.

We were joined by Kindergarten Teacher and Swagger as we walked for cure in the MS Walk.

We spent a weekend in San Diego, soaking up the time with old friends.

Swagger celebrated a birthday, and we joined her as she knocked back cocktails in celebration.

Easter came, and with it came another wonderful day at Grandma Beach Bum's.


Me and my Gardening Mom spent the weekend listening to country music at the Stagecoach Music Festival.

We spent Mother's Day at the lake with Handsome Husband's family, after spending the day before with my sweet Gardening Mom.

We said "see you soon" to Miss Does it All who is still off in Spain living her international travel dreams.

Swagger and I joined Gardening Mom and friends for a Girl's Weekend in Arizona.

I ran my first ever 5k with Tutor Girl!


My not-so-little little sisters turned 17, and celebrated with a public sword fight.

We brought home our sweet little kitty, Diego.

We celebrate Lil C's 1st birthday a few weeks early so he could head to Idaho to spend the 4th of July with his grandparents and aunties in Idaho!


We had a big birthday party for America over 4th of July weekend in Arizona with our friends.

Gardening Mom and Sister Swimmer went on their big humanitarian trip to Haiti.

August 2011

We went on our Tour de Oregon to witness the beautiful wedding of Best Cousin.

Handsome Husband and I celebrated our 3 year "dating anniversary"!

Best Friend Fashionista celebrated her birthday, and we joined in on the fun!

The OC Fair came to town, and we went on crazy rides.  (See above.)


 Cute Apartment was the birthday princess this month, and she celebrated as such!


I got my first big girl nursing job, and we made sure to celebrate it!

We did DIY costumes this year, and they were a big hit for Halloween!

We got to see some good friends in San Diego after it being way too long.

We celebrate Thanksgiving with 2 very special additions to the dinner table: Cute Apartment and her little pup, Roxie.
(And apparently I really liked wearing that shirt.)

December 2011

Cousin Eyeshadow graduated college, and Grandma Beach Bum and I used that as an excuse for champagne!

We went on an amazing trip to Las Vegas with some even more amazing friends.

Our first Christmas as Mr and Mrs came and went far too quickly for my liking.

Friday, December 2, 2011

Project Hope in Haiti, Part IV

To read more about this little series of posts, and about Gardening Mom and Sister Swimmer's journey to Haiti, go HERE, see part II HERE, and see part III HERE.

Saturday, July 23
Last night I had a sleepless night and started getting anxious and homesick. Not sure if part of it might have been the day full of disturbing images of downtown Les Cayes and also hearing that a storm might be coming in and worried that might affect our flight out of Les Cayes or worse our flight out of Port au Prince. Finally went to sleep but woke up still anxious so took a xanex thoughtfully supplied for my flight fears but which I actually never needed for the flights so figured it would get me over the hump of the paralyzing fear that was gripping me still in the morning.

Today was our day to go to Port Salud, which we were told was a beautiful beach about 40 minutes away. P had pointed to the hills in the distance and told us that Port Salud was on the other side of the hill. I think the fear of what I had expected to be a long winding drive was contributing to my angst. Breakfast was, I think, french toast but not sure if I am mixing days up. Mid morning we headed out for Port Salud, J, one of the former orphans now working for the quad, drove, and the med students joined the four of us. The drive was very pretty, the road a bit windy but not scary, and as we got higher we could see glimpses of the ocean on one side and the bay on the other. I sat in front and snapped pictures through the windshield, although it was hard to focus in and snap before we had already passed the subject of the photo. Sitting in front was a treat as not only did it give me a better vantage point for photos but also positioned me strategically for the best flow of the car A/C.

We arrived at Port Salud, a pretty beach with none of the trash that we had seen at the others.


We found a table near a beachside open air restaurant and ordered some sodas, then ordered food which J told us would take awhile so that we would have time to swim before the food arrived.


I sat with J and our bags while the others went to the water.

SS and A


Later I checked out the water, which was a beautiful light blue and warm. A few strolling vendors approached us at the table and although there was not much of interest, I did pick up a pretty basket which will have to serve as my carryon personal item on the way home as I do not believe it will quite fit in my bag as it is very round.

Lunch took about two hours to arrive, not entirely sure why as there we not that many people there nor was the food complex. SS and A ordered chicken in sauce, K originally ordered pork but they were out so she went with the chicken, and J ordered fish in sauce. I originally ordered conch in sauce but they were out of that too so then I ordered lobster which was just a couple of dollars more than the chicken. They wre also out of goat which was also on the menu. While we were waiting for the food a guy was walking around with a pot and a bottle of hot sauce and when I asked J what it was he said it was conch and in answer to my question said it was safe to eat, so I bought some, which came in a small dixie cup douse in the hot sauce and had the texture and taste similar to squid.

The meals arrived had a pile of whatever the protein was in the middle, surrounded by fried slices of plantain, and doused in a butter type sauce if it was sauce or just grilled if it was roasted.


I tasted everyone's and was pleased with my lobster. Most of us did another water trip and then it was time to head back. 

We stopped for mangos on the way back and I kept my eyes open for bananas, which I have seen on the heads of women passing by on the roads but not yet had anyplace that we could purchase (other than the open air market yesterday and I was purchasing nothing there). When we arrived back at the quad dinner was almost ready although most of us were still full from lunch. Dinner was pizza, home made, a few different kinds but somewhat different than the combos at Pizza Hut. There was bacon, green pepper and tomato, anchovy and tomato and hot dogs and something else.


As the sun was setting tonight the sky was a bit ominous and the air is thick, so I am hoping that any approaching storm hits tonight and is well past the area by tomorrow night and Monday morning when we are to leave. The Internet is down tonight, not sure whether it is a temporary thing, or due to a storm, or what, so not sure if this email will go through. Two more nights and one more day not counting our travel day and I am ready to leave.


Tomorrow is Sunday mass, which I understand is a full community event, so should be interesting, but probably culturally insensitive to use as photo op and my cultural sensitivity monitor will certainly keep me from crossing the line on that one.

Sunday, July 24
Sunday, our last full day in Haiti, tomorrow is a full day of travel. Slept a bit later this morning, cold cereal for breakfast, but I followed one of the med students out to the area where they make all for food for the orphan village and had a bowl of rice instead, brown rice with small beans and I think carrots.

Then we had Sunday mass, but I guess it was a communion service which is not as long as mass but quite long enough. It was held in this big building on the Espwa grounds that looks kind of like a blimp hanger, and there are pews in it and they move some of the things from the small chapel in the quad into the building. Most of the prayer and the seem on was done or led by P, who I discover is a deacon as well as an engineer. Father M usually leads the service, but he is out of the country now, actually in San Diego of all places, so we did not get to meet him. There is also a Haitian deacon that assists and when P gave the sermon he had one of the older boys who is conversant in English translate for him, and it was kind of funny in parts, as P would use an expression that was not quite translatable and the boy would look at P puzzled instead of translating and P would need to phrase it differently.

There was a choir, about 16 half boys and half girls, and the girls in particular were in their Sunday best, and the choir was pretty good. There was also the communion, and it got quite warm in there by the time it was over. The attendance was a bit down I think as the skies opened up with a downpour about 20 minutes before it started and that may have kept some people away. All of the kids from the orphanage were there and the house mothers were patrolling to keep them in line.

One thing I have noticed is that the Haitians, at least the rural village people that we see the most, keep fastidiously clean, and they are always doing laundry in three different tubs, two of which are obviously wash and rinse but I am not sure about the third. I am amazed at how white they maintain their whites. There are these succulent plants all around that are used as hedges and also used to lay clothes out to dry. At church today there was a little girl in the row in front if us, maybe three years old, not sure if she was from the orphanage or from the village, but I am guessing the latter, and she has a cute blue and white frilly dress on and the bows in her hair and on her dress were so white they were almost glowing.

After church we played some cards and then had lunch, which was spaghetti - not Haitian spaghetti like we had had before but American spaghetti with meatballs. We also had chocolate cake which is unusual, as desserts are usually not served although P puts out chips about an hour before dinner each evening and we usually have mangos and have had pineapple the last couple of days.

I am really wanting to get home and spent time in my room reading and trying to will the time to go faster. SS, S, K, and the med students worked for about 2 hours filling water balloons, then we loaded them up in several coolers and tubs and lugged them over to the orphanage village where they were a big hit but were spent within 10 minutes, and the boys really seemed to quite enjoy slamming us with them.





K and I left after that but SS and A stayed and played some singing and clapping games with the girls. J asked if I wanted to drive into town with him but I really had no desire to go back there. At one pint in the afternoon, a plane flew over and P said that was our plane home for tomorrow.





Dinner was pumpkin soup, which we had our first day and I guess is the regular Sunday meal. After one of the boys that works in the house sang some songs for us, then we all packed. The med students are also leaving tomorrow and we exchanged emails and added one another as friends on Facebook, then talked for awhile about the challenges of our trip here and hoping the return will go smooth.

I know that I will breathe a sigh of relief when we touch down in Miami and are back in the U S.

Stay tuned for Part V when I will share Gardening Mom and Sister Swimmer's reflections from the trip, and how their charitable work inspired me.
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