Monday, December 19, 2011

Friends I Don't Want

I read this post a long time ago over at Girl Talk and it really resonated (don't be intimidated by my fancy language) with me.

I love my friends.  So much.  But that's not to say that there haven't been times where they weren't quite what I needed, or times when I have been friends with people who just weren't very good friends.

I've finally gotten to the age where I am no longer desperate to cling to friendships simply because I am afraid of change (though I certainly still am afraid of change).  I no longer need to accept poor treatment, a lack of caring and a one-way-street friendship. 

There are simply some friends I don't want.

I don't want friends who only call me when they need something.  Who are only interested in talking about things that relate to them. 

I don't want friends who think they are better than me.  I don't want friends who look down on me.

I don't want friends who don't try.  I don't want to be the only one calling, the only one inviting you to things, the only one making an effort.

I don't want friends who don't support my marriage.  You don't have to love the guy, but you have to respect that he is my partner for life.  When I was younger, I was always the girl who preached "Chicks before...Boys" but something changes once you get married.  I can no longer make my friends my number one priority, I have to leave that spot open for my husband.

I don't want friends who only want to hang out and get drunk.  I realize we are young, and hell, I like to drink as much as the next girl.  But if all we do is get drunk together, lets call it what it is.  We are bar buddies, not best buddies.

I don't want friends who are consumed with themselves.  I also don't want friends who allow me to be consumed with myself either!  This girl likes to talk, and sometimes I get off the phone wondering, Did I even ask her how her day was?  Interrupt me, girlfriends!  It's not that I don't care, I just get so caught up talking, sometimes I realize I was only talking about myself the entire time! 

I don't want friends who don't love me, care about me, and want the best for me.  I feel this way about all of my friends.  They are not perfect people, but I love and adore them and am always their biggest cheerleader.  I may not agree with every thing they do, but I always want to hear about it.  They might not like what I have to say, but I am always honest.

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Krystal said...

Best quote ever. "We are bar buddies, not best buddies." I have a lot of those.... kind of sucks but at the same time I'm glad they exist.

Erin said...

love this post.
thanks! :)

Dani said...

totes, m'gotes, sistaaaa.
if we only get coffee or alcohol...
does that make us only drinking buddies?! teeheee

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